ALT.NET Mailing List: YMMV

I finally caught up with my reading on the Alt.Net mailing list.  I can't say that I'm a frequent contributor to the group - I'm usually a good few days behind any conversation and also I'm still on the learning path myself so can't usually provide any answers.

Unfortunately the threads on the list seem to be degenerating into the same old Alt.Net catfights. There seems to be far too much "You're doing it wrong", or "you should be using pattern/technology/tool XYZ, anything else is useless".

What I would find more useful, and certainly more pleasing to read, would be along the lines of "I did something similar and used pattern/technology/tool XYZ, but YMMV"

For some reason this doesn't seem to happen on the other groups I read.  The BDD, DDD, TDD groups generally seem a bit friendlier.  I also recently joined the Agile Testing group and saw this on the introduction page:

We would like most of the discussion to be specific:
Q: "I am in situation X. I've run into problem Y. Does anyone have any advice?"
A; "I was in a very similar situation last year. We tried Z, and it worked OK."

Now that's more like it.